Do Toxic Individuals Exist?

Toxic people are those who ruin the lives of the individuals who are closest to them with their negativity. They tend to steal the self-esteem, the self-confidence and the energy of their victims;  prolonged exposure to such people may lead to illness. It is useful to bear in mind that toxic individuals do not act in the same way with everybody, nevertheless there is a clear trend towards noxious behaviour. They can be narcissistic, controlling, envious, jealous, manipulative, quite often they lack friends and they distance themselves from their family members or engage in harmful conversations and actions to mortally influence the members of their own family so their behavioural dynamics will be ill too - toxicity is highly contagious. They do not respect anybody because they do not respect themselves, they do not love anybody because they do not love themselves. Occasionally, there is an underlying mental illness, but, sometimes, it is just the kind of behaviour they have embraced.

Whenever one has interaction with them, they will leave an element of doubt, fear, insecurity, discomfort or restlessness; sometimes they may take over their victim completely. If there is no choice but to deal with these people the best thing to do is to not overshadow them since that is one of the things they most fear. They shall exercise their control with their actions and reactions and also when they do not react at all; sometimes they use subtleties, like forgetting something important for their victims, they will always have ‘a good excuse’ for not having done something,  always permeated with a toxic crust, seemingly trivial things which act like the Chinese water torture - water is dripped onto a person's forehead, making the victim insane – some of their messages may leave their victims bewildered, they know how to do it in Machiavellian ways, they have been trained extensively and can perform consciously or unconsciously. Do not expect a sincere and warm word or a sincere hug; at times they may even deny you a ' thank you'. If they need something, they may say something nice, but it is clear that their observations are not sincere.

Sometimes it is extremely difficult to stay away from toxic individuals; we may be talking about parents, children, siblings, friends, bosses, teachers or sentimental partners. There may coexist more than one of these characters in ones life at the same time, but do not lose hope because there is a solution: you cannot control people’s reactions but you can control yours.

The world is full of wonderful, protective, loving individuals, who will respect and honor you; the universe is full of honest and principled individuals, with outstanding qualities. Do not waste your time, energy, joy and confidence - life is short and the most important thing in your life is your life.  

It is peculiar that individuals who lacked love in their childhood and adolescence, may, in their adulthood, 'look for' human beings with similar characteristics, in order to 'solve' emotional deficiencies, that have been their companions throughout life.

If someone sees themselves as a toxic individual and would like to stop being one, if you want your life to flow in a positive direction, don't hesitate, contact me. I can help you. Confidentiality and the Code of Ethics are part of the absolute responsibility and respect for the customer.

"I am an optimist. It does not seem to be much use being anything else." Winston Churchill

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