How does the Karpman Triangle work?

First, we have on stage an attractive lure and a hook; for instance the Victim asks the Rescuer for help, usually the second mentioned will offer help which will lead to a series of negotiations, that will point to the exchange and finally to the unconsciously sought compensation. If the strategy does not fit with the prospect of the Rescuer or Persecutor, the Victim will seek someone else with which to implement their 'wicked' game. The victim may present an alternative trick and react as a Persecutor, expressing something nasty about the person who was asked.

Once the psychological game starts, a series of transactions that can last forever take place in any kind of relationship: couples, siblings, parents, friends and co-workers, since, in any kind of relationship the individuals involved seem to accept the game without any problem, however, what happens very often is that a party gets tired and leaves the game; usually the Rescuer becomes the Victim and the Victim becomes the Persecutor, their respective roles are exchanged at full speed, the game ends and each one leaves with the tail between the legs with that familiar feeling of having nurtured the old and very familiar wounds. This is a pernicious game that leads to nothing and in which all the participants lose.

 

The Karpman triangle works in a social setting, the participant’s behaviour is perfectly observable, but also operates internally, i.e., directly affecting the feelings of the individuals who play the role. These roles are so intricate that sometimes a participant who identifies as a Victim can be seen as a Persecutor or appear to others as a Victim and actually be a Persecutor. Worthy of a Hitchcock film.

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